Is This Your Best You
We as a culture have gone way past the idea of being modest or demure. Like either of these words are cursed from our memories. I remember as a child watching old black and white movies, studying these women’s gaits as they walked in rooms, pursing their lips before they spoke with their perfectly coifed hair. Designers long ago designed to hide our flaws accent our beautiful attributes. Then a movie called Mahogany with Diana Ross as the lead actress arrived and brought out sass, color and style. The fashion was simply divine. Mahogany was sexy, powerful and most of all well dressed. I aspired to dress like this when I grew up. I learned from my mother to have good posture and hold my stomach in, which I probably learned to do in my sleep. Maybe it was because growing up in my era we had to walk more and be active; there were very few people that were overweight. People were just more conscious of their appearance.
I guess busyness, which lends to the issue we are too busy to cook, too busy to exercise and definitely too busy to be concerned with the person in the mirror. Maybe because it’s cheaper to buy 3 pair of stretchy pants than to buy one pair of well fitted pants and a shirt that not squeezing and exposing your love handles. I wear yoga pants at the gym and will go errands after a good sweat; however yoga pants are not a daily outfit.
Has our busyness led to our lack of dressing for modesty? Stretchy pants show everything! The bumps, bulges and lumps, thighs rubbing together almost starting small forest fires. Not to mention those dreaded sweat stains, knowing there is not a gym in sight.
In some people’s defense, I will say it’s cheaper to dress with ill fitted clothes than to dress with well fitted clothes. With the overseas manufactures using thin fabric and Asian fit models, it no wonder clothes fit ill. Better fabrics cost more which lends to more whole cut fits.
A person of any size should wear clothes that are appropriate. Clothing that showcases bulging tummies, breasts that crests out of your clothes and ripples on your behind don’t make you feel empowered, on the contrary you feel self conscious and you are constantly pulling your shirt down or pulling your pants up.
Are you comfortable yet?
Is this culprit the media? You post all your sexy pictures on Facebook and Instagram to impress people you’ll never meet to get likes!
Women’s fashions throughout time have run the gambit, from colonial dresses to the sizzler dress of the 70’s, from the clean line of trousers in the 30’s to the cropped and ripped jeans of now. What makes any form of clothing fashionable? The fit!
Wear clothes that fit your body type. No pulling or tugging. If you look and feel comfortable, you exude confidence.
I wish the mirror only stopped at my body. Then there is my face and hair staring at me. If the barn, meaning my face needs a light bit of paint, do it. I love lashes but if it looks like five spiders have roosted on your eyes then you’ve gone too far. Being natural doesn’t mean totally bare, it also means lighted accents.
If you are wearing 5 hairs of a yak or 4 heads of Indonesians on your head, keep up with the maintenance. If you have decided to wear streams of rainbows in your hair, wear if coifed.
We live in era where anything can go and does, however, the smiles have dimed and glimmer of woman’s gait and the respect we once garnered is diminishing because we don’t respect or dress the woman in the mirror. Her costume is not of one of respect for herself and the persons she encounters. Have we not mentored through example? Maybe we were too busy allowing the media to dictate our fashion or morality, maybe we thought Mahogany was going to teach them.
Are you too busy to be in your best you? Stop and reset now, our future women will depend on the past that was left to them. And you that is living in the now, need to know that being in the best you can always be rendered and improved. Resist the fads and the fake comfort ability, live in the best you now!!!