Moving closer to natural hair has been given me a revival of emotions. To weave or not to weave? Natural or straight? My journey continues.
I’m not hating, the weave. I’ve been a weave lover myself, Braids, pressed, permed, fried, dyed and laid to the side but until I learn to love my natural hair. I wasn’t able to except and love me.
Women of color spend over half a trillion a year on hair care and weaves. I have personally contributed to that amount. My first thought when I was thinking of going natural was, how would the workforce accept my new hair and would they take me seriously? They commented on how long my hair was for a black woman. How often do you wash your hair? I’ve almost had to cut off fingers of those of who ran their fingers through my hair when I would straighten it. Who walks up to random strangers and runs their fingers through their hair? Rude! You know who you are! Number one no no!
Natural hair was hard to get used to at first. I felt such guilt for breaking up with my stylist. No every two weeks? Who would I tell my secrets to? My budget loved it but then it was the nagging image of who was that looking back at me in the mirror. My hair truly is unruly. It has no rhyme or reason to it. Some days it would look beautiful and other days kinky. I went through a barrage of curly hair products. Kinky Curls, Mix Girls, Rough and Tough Curls, I invested in every product that said it would help me get this mess under control.
Point is, I just wasn’t used to looking unprofessional as I saw it. I was on the verge of wearing a dashiki to work with an Afro pick in the back. It wasn’t about the texture, it was the image I was portraying.
Since wearing my hair natural, I have had people of all nationalities come up and rally with support of my natural hair. Some people of color say they wish they could do it, but don’t like their kinky hair, It’s too nappy. I beg to differ, the kinkier the better. There are so many natural products that you can make at home to make the transition smoother.
Try it! Give yourself time to embrace that your hair will have a different look. Check in on your stylist every now and then. They’re losing a relationship also. Invest in a good shower nozzle, for your new do it yourself hairdo. Guess what? You can now get your hair wet and that’s huge! Swimming, showers, walking in the rain, so many possibilities.
If I choose to wear my hair straight on occasion, or even put a few tracks in I can. But I am not a slave to what society says that I should conform to. My beauty is deeper than my hair. It is the spirit that lives in me that empowers me and gives me energy to strive, not the images of what society says my hair represents.
NATURAL HAIR CARE TIPS
No need to wet your hair every day. These easy tips will help with your daily natural style.
I use a non-foaming shampoo like Deva Curls and Deval Curl conditioner.
1. Mix one part silicon conditioner to 3 parts distilled water for an instant conditioner. Spritz until moist and lightly pick through with your fingers of large tooth comb.
2. I use tablespoon of Miss Jesse Lemon Crème for shine.
3. Paul Mitchell pomade for sculpting.
There is no wrong way! I’m always experimenting… I’ll let you know my progress!!!